As both a clinician and someone writing about sex rituals, “We don’t just need sex for physical release. We need it to feel acceptable to ourselves. We need it to ease the tension of having loud, busy, anxious minds. When we deny that part of ourselves, we aren’t just missing out on pleasure. We are rejecting a core part of who we are.” felt very true.
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>>there are two parts of you. There is the respectable adult who navigates the world, pays the bills, and goes to dinner parties. And there is the animal that needs physical release and to feel wanted.
Both deserve a seat at the table. If you starve the animal to feed the adult, the relationship will eventually starve too.
As both a clinician and someone writing about sex rituals, “We don’t just need sex for physical release. We need it to feel acceptable to ourselves. We need it to ease the tension of having loud, busy, anxious minds. When we deny that part of ourselves, we aren’t just missing out on pleasure. We are rejecting a core part of who we are.” felt very true.
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so good>>
>>there are two parts of you. There is the respectable adult who navigates the world, pays the bills, and goes to dinner parties. And there is the animal that needs physical release and to feel wanted.
Both deserve a seat at the table. If you starve the animal to feed the adult, the relationship will eventually starve too.
This is beautiful!!! And so needed.