Wish I’d had read this 56 years ago. We thought we knew what we were doing, that everything good would somehow fall into place automatically. My husband passed away 8 years ago and only since then do I see all the little things I could have done to make a nice marriage into a GREAT one.
This might be the most important comment anyone's left on anything I've written 🤗
56 years. The fact that you can look back across that much life together and see the small things you'd do differently... that's not regret. That's clarity most people never get.
And I want to say this carefully, because I mean it: a "nice marriage" that lasted decades is not a small thing. You built something real. The fact that you can now see where it could have been even deeper doesn't erase what it was.
What gets me is that nobody gave your generation the language for this. Nobody sat you down and said "here's how attention works, here's what those small moments actually do" You were expected to figure it out on instinct. And you still built something that held.
Your husband was lucky to have someone who still thinks about the small things, even now 🕯️
Wish I’d had read this 56 years ago. We thought we knew what we were doing, that everything good would somehow fall into place automatically. My husband passed away 8 years ago and only since then do I see all the little things I could have done to make a nice marriage into a GREAT one.
This might be the most important comment anyone's left on anything I've written 🤗
56 years. The fact that you can look back across that much life together and see the small things you'd do differently... that's not regret. That's clarity most people never get.
And I want to say this carefully, because I mean it: a "nice marriage" that lasted decades is not a small thing. You built something real. The fact that you can now see where it could have been even deeper doesn't erase what it was.
What gets me is that nobody gave your generation the language for this. Nobody sat you down and said "here's how attention works, here's what those small moments actually do" You were expected to figure it out on instinct. And you still built something that held.
Your husband was lucky to have someone who still thinks about the small things, even now 🕯️